DEAR DEIDRE: MY fiancée went to Australia to stay with an old school friend – and had sex with her pal’s younger brother there.She stayed in touch with me while she was away but I started to realise this brother kept cropping up in her chat.
I guessed he was hoping to get physical. My girlfriend is a very attractive girl. We are both 25 and the brother is 22.She was distant when she first got back, and then she accidentally sent me a text intended for him, saying how they loved each other and talking about the sex they’d had. I told her how I felt about it. She cut all contact with him and said she was distant because she felt so guilty.She assures me it will never happen again but I am finding it so hard to cope with knowing she has cheated.
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s natural for it to take time before you can believe that it really is you she loves.Tell her you need to hear that a lot but resist the temptation to ask for more details about what happened. That would only make it worse.My e-leaflet Cheating – Can You Get Over It? should help you strengthen your relationship.